Pleasure, Power, Purpose

What do you seek in life?


Well, unfortunately, your pleasure can be taken from you.  Imagine what would happen if that were to occur. Depression, anxiety, hurt, doubt, darkness and a host of other things would await you.

What do you seek in life?

Power or status?

Guess what… your supposed “power” or status can be taken from you at a moment’s notice. Imagine what would happen if that were to occur.  Depression, anxiety, hurt, doubt, darkness and a host of other things would await you. Do not think, for a moment, that your power cannot be taken from you. Are you a father, mother, child, brother or sister? Those titles can be easily removed from your life.  People do not think so, because they are ensconced in comfort and/or control. Are you a CEO? Are you the leader of a large group of people?  It can all change in a heartbeat.  What happens then?

What do you seek in life?


Is your purpose to gain pleasure? Power or status? No.  Those things might come to you, if you find the ultimate purpose in your life, though.

Let me ask you a question. What benefit is there to transcend self?  That’s a high-minded sounding thought, but it’s not too difficult to understand, if you look at it for a moment.  There is self, and there are others.  There is self and there is the environment that the self finds itself in.

Do you retreat into the search for pleasure and/or power?  If so, you’re probably not transcending self. That is, you don’t have the over-arching goal of helping others in life. Therein is where we find our purpose. We transcend self by helping our neighbor, wherever we find them. As we step outside of ourselves, we begin a journey in the world that never lacks for adventure and excitement… if you’re given to those sorts of things.

What is your purpose in life?  It’s an easy question to ask. It’s almost impossible to answer, though.

What is your purpose at home?

What is your purpose at work?

At school?

In the checkout line at the grocery store?

In traffic?

How about riding on the bus?

What is your purpose? You can’t get away from it. How often do you think about it? It can be depressing, if one dwells on it for too long, without getting out in the world to experience an answer.

What is your foundation for it?

Do you like being asked so many questions?  Well, if you’ve never really examined what your purpose in life might be, there will be nothing but questions at the beginning.  This is why so many people simply don’t understand any purpose their lives. They’re too busy chasing pleasure or power.

Do you have the guts to just unplug from the ever-increasing speed at which society is moving?  I will tell you that this will be the only way you’ll find meaning in your life.

What is your mindset to it?

Do you have the intestinal fortitude (i.e., guts)?

Let me know.

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Failure Is Only Temporary… Sometimes

I’m not bothered by failure. I’m just bothered by all the high-minded people who classify others as failures. This is what I meant in the title to this post. Failure is only a temporary thing. It becomes permanent when people who are led by making money or who are caught up in the ever-increasing speed or inflation of society attempt to label people as failures and the people who are labeled accept the labeling.

History is too full of people who have failed, and kept failing, only to become more successful than they ever dreamed possible, causing all the naysayers to eat their hats. Unfortunately, most people may not have the drive to overcome the opinions of others, and they sink to the bottom, in their own minds. Even more unfortunately, the choice to do so is completely theirs. The is where the permanency of failure comes in at.

This always comes back to the idea of what a person wants. Are they led by pleasure? Are they led by the attainment of power or status? If so, then they will ultimately fail when it comes to the most important factor in being human, and that is to have a desire to understand the meaning of their life.

So, join me in coming to understand the deeper things in life and put all the high-minded in their place. Fail your tuchus off! Just don’t give up. Find your tribe! Find your place. Find those who see you as you are and accept you when you come up short. There is a major difference between these people in your tribe and those who are led by grasping at pleasure and power. But, be careful, for there may be those in your tribe who are led by these very things.

The greatest thing to understand in all of this is that… and I’m gonna get corny here for just a second… failure is just a word. It doesn’t really exist. The mindset toward it is what truly exists. Think of your own mindset toward it. How do you view it?

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Your Arguing…

I don’t want you to agree with me on this.  I don’t want you to disagree, either. I want you to understand what it is that I am saying. Any person, with any amount of knowledge or understanding, can either agree or disagree to an argument that is presented. It doesn’t take a whole lot to do either. It does take something, though, to understand.

An argument is typically defined as

: a statement or series of statements for or against something

: a discussion in which people express different opinions about something

: an angry disagreement (

Think about this for a moment: “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” ~~ Attributed to Aristotle.

Remember, trying to understand the other person’s viewpoint takes a bit of extra work. Clarifying definitions, understanding positions, and seeing their goals are not always so easy to do.

It takes time. It takes patience. It takes a desire to know. Do you have what it takes?

The apostle Paul, in the Bible, once wrote that he became “all things to all men, so that by some means he might win a few.” (I Cor. 9:22b)  This doesn’t mean that he accepted the lifestyles of those he came to understand. It simply means that he tried his best to understand the other side’s view, so that he might apply the strengths and weaknesses of what they had to more readily accept his message.

Viktor Frankl once said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Would you choose to hear someone out, to really hear and understand their views? Would you be able to keep your biases outside of your hearing? It takes discipline. More than that, it takes courage.  Most do not have what it takes.  The next time you find yourself in the midst of an argument, take the time to think about your position. Lay it down for a few minutes and listen to what the other person is saying. Listen beyond their words. Listen to their silences, as well.

When you begin to practice this sort of communication, you will begin to grow by leaps and bounds. You do not have to accept what is being told to you. You should try to understand, though.  In that understanding comes strength.


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Our Vocabulary

Words are the symbols by which we live.

How often do we allow them to rule us, rather than we them?

Here’s an example:

How awesome is “awesome”?  It seems like there’s an inflation factor in the use of words.  People, nowadays, are always seeming trying to make things better or more attractive than what they are. The use of the word “awesome” is one of the words that prove my point.

If we were to stumble upon something that is truly awesome, what words would we use to describe them? We wouldn’t really have anything, as that word has been usurped to describe everyday things.  Heck, even my voice activated text messaging app on my phone uses the word…

She says, “To send a message, say “Send text.” So, I say, “Send Text.” I then make my statement, which she generally gets right. She then asks me if what I said was what she heard and is ready to send. I answer, “Yes.” Her next words…  make me want to throw my phone out the window, “Awesome, I’ll send that.”  What the heck is so awesome about that? The fact that…  what???  I’m communicating?

I know it’s a small thing, but it’s really irritating to me.

Another thing that is irritating to me is the use of the phrase “unconditional love.”  There is no such thing as “unconditional love.”  Love, by its very nature, places restrictions on the relationship that it is in.  In other words, “unconditional” means “anything goes.”  When’s the last time you were in a relationship where anything goes?  If you were in that sort of relationship, then chances are it wasn’t worth very much.  Heck, if there were ever an unconditional love that worked, well…  that would be….  awesome!  Just think about it.  I could have unconditional love from my wife.  I’ll let your mind wander a bit with the implications of that… now that we’re living in such an awesome time.

The point that I’m getting after here is that some people are living in such an existential vacuum, that they need to make up thoughts that aren’t really there, in order to make themselves feel better.  They are simply masking the problem of emptiness, while continuing to go down that path, wondering why their outlook in life never gets any brighter.  They are trying to manufacture happiness by the use of their words.  It hasn’t worked, and it will never work.

What words do you use in your life that “ain’t necessarily so”?

Gauge your words and see how effective they truly are.  Gauge the positive, as well as the negative.  One of the negatives would be the latching on of the suffix “phobia,” to words of your choice.  The word “homophobia” is one such word.  That is a political word, meant to try to discredit the character of the one that it is aimed at.  By a large margin, a person who is labeled as being homophobic is probably about as far from that psychological condition as can be. A person who is phobic has an intense fear or dislike of something, to the point of where they basically cannot function while the object of their problem is in their environment or has the chance of being so.  Unfortunately, all of the self-professed unconditional lovers of mankind who think that their views are awesome are more likely to use a term such as this, because a person who might disagree with their views is the exact opposite of their selves.

I have my own label for these types of people.  They are called alétheiaphobics.  I’ll leave that up to you to decipher.

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Phobia This, Phobia That…

You know what I really like about strapping the suffix “phobia” onto the end of so many words…

The words actually begin to lose their meaning, or actually mean nothing at all to begin with.

Phobias are clinical conditions, and those who suffer from real phobias, as opposed to imagined ones, are being done the greatest disservice by those who have political agendas of trying to shame others by their use of words on a public that is unenlightened about the impact words actually have on the human psyche.

If more people actually took the time to expand their vocabulary beyond what they are familiar with, then we’d not have so many gullible people being tossed around by every wind and wave that comes along.

The problem is…  and here we go…  a word of my own creation…  I think… is that most people are alítheiaphobic.  I think it’s my own word.  I googled it, and came up with no hits.  Hey, it’s my one and only claim to fame.  How paraphrytical. Oh…  that’s another word of my own.  Guess what it means.

Now, getting back to the alítheiaphobic condition, I think everyone suffers from it.  There are very few of us who are headed down one way of living life who can stand, unaffected, when we come up against a measure of truth that contradicts the ways we believe/act.  We start to get all sorts of bent out of shape and begin to resort to all sorts of tactics to maintain our error-prone ways.

Whereas we can never know an ultimate truth, we can pretty much be assured that we can have most of our ideas disassembled right before our very eyes by bits and pieces of that ultimate truth.

We…  don’t… like that.

The best way to defeat an alítheiaphobic way of being is to simply not get into arguments (the presentation of ideas, and not verbal fights) in order to agree or disagree. Any fool can agree with the least amount of evidence, and any fool can disagree with the greatest amount of vehemence, based on the least amount of evidence.  How about this for your next argument (the presentation of ideas, and not verbal fights): Try to understand the other person’s point of view.

There is a quote that is attributed to Aristotle that reflects this thought of arguing to understand: “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” Now, you might want to google this quote, as it could actually be from Linus in a Peanuts cartoon.  I’m just sayin’…  We need to be sure of that which we speak, before we speak it, and not simply base our thoughts on emotions, which is what the majority of any population does.

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