What Love Is or Does

What Love Is or Does… Thoughts by ten people with smarts infinitely greater than mine: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~~ Lao Tzu “We love life, not because we are used to living but because we are used to loving.” ~~ Nietzsche “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” ~~ J.A. Baldwin “Love in its essence is spiritual fire.” ~~ Lucias Annaeus Seneca “Love is the crowning grace of humanity, the holiest right of the soul, the golden link which … Continue reading

Chocolate’s Got It Goin’ On…

…and you might too, if you eat enough of it (But not 25 pounds of it (You’ll see)). To many, chocolate is that dark, magical, mystical answer to life (Imagine Madeline Kahn singing “Sweet Mystery of Life.”) (Well, ok, maybe not). But I hope you get the drift. Psychologically, chocolate is great, but, then again, I’m a guy. For quite a few women, from what I’ve read and been told direct from the source, is that women claim it’s fantastic! Again, I hope you get the drift. Men are not quite as influenced by the effects of chocolate as women … Continue reading

Belonging vs Belonging

Did you know that “belonging” helps to strengthen us, in life? There is a very negative view regarding “belonging,” though. In relationships, quite often we might think, “I belong to you” or “You belong to me,” and yet, there are people who hear the word “belong” and will shut down any further chance of carrying on with that particular conversation, with the thought, “I DON’T BELONG TO ANYONE!” This is unfortunate. Many people are scared of becoming objectified. They want to maintain their personal autonomy and integrity. They also have a very distorted view of what it means to belong … Continue reading

The Obsessiveness of Love

I came across a question that has sort of developed into this answer. It has to do with “desiring” someone… or something. Originally, it came across as one person pursuing another, and then being rejected by said second person. I responded to that original question, and then this second question was posed. Here’s how it went: Here’s her question (I’ve paraphrased it, in order to protect the author of the thought): **”How can people get themselves out of the cycle of obsessive thinking? To get out of that way of thinking or feeling? We just can’t tell someone that I’m … Continue reading